Holidays can often bring a lot of pain, stress and depression for many. Taking care of yourself and being mindful of the meaning you make of the holidays are key in promoting your emotional health. The American Psychological Association (APA) has advised that “the holidays [are] an opportunity to enhance your psychological well-being”. The errands, guests, shopping, hosting, etc. can cause a number of people to be weighed down with expectations and obligations. When you add in the COVID-19 pandemic, this can be an overwhelming season. According to the APA and the Mayo Clinic, here are a few tips to manage this holiday:
-Acknowledge your feelings: Whatever the feelings are that are triggered during the holidays are important. It it is imperative that you don’t attempt to force yourself to just be happy and brush past what you feel.
–Take time for yourself: Focus on things that bring joy and that help you to take the edge off in healthy ways (e.g. taking a walk, reading, music, etc.). Think of things you can do and hobbies to embrace in order to refuel and recharge.
–Have realistic expectations: Dispel the need for perfection. Embrace change from how the holidays have been spent in the past and be adaptable to the needs of your families and loved-ones in ways that allow for positive gatherings. This may mean being open to video, online, and non-traditional means of celebrating, especially due to the pandemic. Manage your budget so that overspending does not bring you stress.
–Healthy Boundaries: Learn to say “no” while recognizing your limits. Plan ahead.
–Reach out for supports: Seeking out community resources such as religious, social events, and support groups can offer support to guard against loneliness and despair. See professional help as needed.
–Volunteering: Giving back and helping others can give you a better perspective of your own struggles and help with lifting your mood.
–Healthy conversations: Practice gratitude with what you do have and share appreciation. Limit conversations that bring division and negativity. Practice positive activities to spend quality time with those you love. Try to set aside differences that aid division and discord.
At the end of the day and throughout this season, the most important thing to remember is keeping the main thing the main thing. This season is not really about the perfect gifts or events, but about the people you love and staying connected to them.
1Alliance CPS wishes you and yours a safe holiday and a prosperous New Year!
Resources:
https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/stress/art-20047544
https://www.apa.org/topics/stress/holiday-season